I'm having trouble maintaining an erection during intercourse with my wife. Do you have any tips to help me perform better? Mike F., New Jersey I don't get it. Just look at her boobs. Or maybe you're gay or something, I dunno. She's naked, right? Just have her tug at your boner. If it doesn't work, you like dudes. Go have sex with a dude or something. I'll bet your boner will stay. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years, but he's never given me an orgasm. Are we doing something wrong? Carol H., California You should let him finger you. My friend Ray fingered a girl behind the 7/11 and she came like three times. But Ray says he's really good so I don't know if it will work with your boyfriend. He should still try though. I started dating this girl about 3 weeks ago, and she already thinks we were "meant to be." How can I let her down gently? Will C., North Carolina First of all, how hot is she? You have to ask yourself, "...